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Life update and feeling overwhelmed
Daniel has just learned to climb out of his cot which is going to make my life a bit harder for a while. His sleep has been patchy and together with him being full on during the day (adorably cute and funny, but full of energy and loves to whack me and throw things at me), homework dramas with William, my Mummy skills are being put to the test. Earlier tonight it all came to a head. I’d been busy all day with my blog, getting my paid posts and reviews scheduled (to a point) and adding more to my list, replying to emails, applying for more work. There never seem to be enough hours in the day, time always runs out. You can only achieve so much. Then when I picked up the children, William had a problem at football that needed a gentle touch, then we needed to do his homework – now he’s in Key stage 2 it means weekly reading, learning spelling and either maths or literacy homework. The maths one is ok (if I understand the question) but he struggles with writing and thinking of what to write. We end up helping him so much we practically dictate it for him and I get frustrated because I can’t understand why he can’t just think of something and write it! My husband ended up helping him because I was just shouting at him. There was also dinner to make, a toddler to stop getting into trouble and Phoebe, well she’s no trouble but then I feel like I’m ignoring her. I was feeding Daniel his yoghurt and he’d finished, he likes to have a go at feeding himself, then he said ‘All gone,’ and through the spoon at me, which hit me square in the forehead. I shouted, ‘Right, that’s it, I’ve had enough!’ and went upstairs to cry and watch Strictly: It takes two. I’d literally just had enough and couldn’t do it anymore. I want to take some time out but I feel like I’m on a treadmill that I can’t get off. I’m lucky in that my husband was there, if I’d been a single mother I don’t know what I would have done, probably similar I think! My husband left me to cool off for a bit and then came up and talked me through it and made me laugh. I apologised to my son and he said it was ok. He doesn’t want to do football anymore and that’s alright with us, one less expense. I’ll try not to let the little things get to me and only take on what I can do, whilst still paying the bills. I could downsize and then have less pressure, but we’ve worked so hard to get this house it would be a shame to take a backward step.
The problem is, I take on too much and have too high expectations. There’s so much I want to achieve, but I also need to do the washing up. Something has to give in the end. It’s a common problem among the modern woman, we feel like we should have it all or something. My DH made me realise that a lot of my problems don’t really matter in the long run. I need to try and slow down. I’ve accepted we’re not going to have the perfect dream house anytime soon (we have a house but it needs a lot of work). I’m trying to take on less reviews for the blog, unless it’s something I really need or want, or they’re offering payment on top, I won’t do it. Really. Chocolate spread? 4 jars? OK. But I’ve told them I can’t do it until mid November. See, I am getting better!
I attended a lovely event learning all about Norwegian Fjord Trout and I got to meet Michelin starred chef Daniel Galmiche, which was a delight for this foodie. We’ve been busy with toy reviews, I have a new giveaway on and next week I’m sending my sister in law out on a scary assignment to a preview of this years Phobophobia attraction at the London Bridge Experience and Tombs. It promises an immersive experience with actors and props in low lighting, the theme being marionettes, ventriloquist dummies and dolls – woooohhh! I’m too scaredy-pants to go and she loves all that stuff, goes on regular ghost hunts and everything. During half term we’ve been invited to go to Kidtropolis at London’s Excel, which promises lots of interesting stuff to see and do, including a giant helter skelter, 40 player minecraft hub, my little pony Equestria bus and lots of characters like paw patrol, transformers and some youtubers to meet. I’m taking the older two whilst Daniel’s at nursery. Should be fun, although I know I’m going to get pulled in all directions.
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