11 annoying things people say to new mums (and what to say back)

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Once you become a parent, people will comment on how you are doing it and your child - here's what the most common annoying things people say to new mums and what to say back!

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This post is designed to prepare you for what you will get asked when you go out with a new baby and some ideas of what to say back (at least in your head anyway).  People feel totally justified in asking these questions, you will be accosted in supermarkets, doctor’s surgeries, in parks and by friend’s and relative’s  If you’ve asked these questions, think twice before you ask them again!

1. Is he good?

I hate this question, it implies babies have a choice and that they can either conform and be a ‘good’ baby or not and be a what? Bad baby? Naughty baby? Babies can’t manipulate or misbehave, they’re just acting on instinct.  You have 3 choices here:

a) smile and say ‘Yes’ (usually when your baby has been particularly ‘well behaved’ and you feel partially rested, or when you don’t have the time or the inclination to disagree.

b) shake your head and say no he’s awful, only said when you either want to tell them not to label babies or when it’s someone you know and you feel ready to burst into tears and discuss crying, not sleeping and sore nipples.

2. Does she sleep through the night?

Simple answer – No, unless you’re one of those Mums whose baby miraculously slept through from week 3 or if you count sleeping through as 11pm – 3am.

3. He’s got a good pair of lungs on him!

Yes I know he’s screaming the place down but I don’t know how/can’t make him shut up right now!

4. What a pretty girl! (When it’s a boy)

Politely correct them, agree or shout ‘He’s wearing a blue outfit with tractors on for goodness sake!’

5. What a handsome boy! (When it’s a girl)

See above but you’ve usually put a bow or hairband in their hair and they still get it wrong!

6. You’ve got your hands full!

Usually said to you when you have one other child under 2 with you or two or more other children with you – I usually just agree and smile exasperatedly but I did choose to have 3 children so I know I’ve got my hands full but that’s the way I like it!

7. What’s her name?

None of your business.

8. Are you feeding him yourself?

Breast/Bottle, what difference is it to you?  I love my child (I breastfeed so always answer yes then get variations of ‘well done,’ or ‘it’s hard, isn’t it?’ – It is at times but easier on the whole.

9. Has he got wind?

Usually goes hand in hand with number 3, the answer is usually ‘I haven’t got a friggin clue, you try winding him!

10. Is she teething?

Either goes with above or when she naturally puts anything in her mouth.  The answer is yes but babies probably teethe from when they’re born until they get a full set and then they start falling out and get adult teeth with a whole new set of problems so I really can’t blame her grouchiness on teething the whole time.

11. Is he hungry?

a) Yes, but I’m not in a position to feed him right now

b) No, I just fed him!

c) Possibly, but I’m in the middle of doing something very important like buying a coffee or trying to get jobs done or dealing with my other child/children.

Let me know if you can add to this list!

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33 Comments

  • Reply Mrs Tubbs

    So true! There is nothing you can say though, so you just smile and nod in return. #thelist

    September 5, 2015 at 10:01 pm
  • Reply min1980

    Ha! The one that irks me the most is #1. I presume that this is another way of asking whether they sleep through the night and sit quietly at home playing with their toys, in which case the answer is a) no and b) no, but as you quite rightly pointed out, this doesn’t make them a moral degenerate! It’s a baby. That’s what they do. On the other hand, I have to say I’m not bothered about #4 and #5. I take it as a compliment when my boy is mistaken for a girl. Might be something to do with the girls’ clothes I sometimes dress him in.

    September 5, 2015 at 10:05 pm
  • Reply Divine Elements of DesignNakeya

    These are so funny. Almost makes we wish I had another baby to be able to reply to those comments. Almost. Lol

    September 6, 2015 at 4:13 pm
  • Reply Random Musings

    I was a little worried how many of these I would be guilty of! Pleased to report it’s only one – the “What’s his/her name?” (and even then only with people I actually know, so I think that’s ok!). I love your comebacks to these 🙂
    Thanks for linking up to #AnythingGoes
    Debbie

    September 7, 2015 at 3:10 pm
    • Reply midwifeandlife

      That’s ok then! I’m probably guilty myself 🙂

      September 7, 2015 at 3:40 pm
  • Reply diyadulation

    I hear, “Boy you’re brave,” when I take all three kids to the grocery at once. I know people are just trying to make conversation but I always want to reply with a snarky, “No, this is what motherhood looks like, especially when your husband works 3rd shift!”

    September 7, 2015 at 6:40 pm
  • Reply samantha

    great posts!! I got a great chuckle at a few of these!! I have an 18 month old and have had the strangest things said to me in regard to her! I have noticed that people constantly asked if she is teething.

    September 7, 2015 at 8:01 pm
  • Reply littleesmesblog

    Haha these are so true the “is she good for you” I have that a lot !!

    September 7, 2015 at 11:41 pm
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    September 8, 2015 at 5:01 am
  • Reply therealmilitaryhousewife

    Smile and wave, smile and wave. Also, *rolls eyes.*
    xx
    #AnythingGoes

    September 8, 2015 at 10:32 am
  • Reply carol

    Love this so true #twinklytuesday

    September 8, 2015 at 9:01 pm
  • Reply Mrs Lighty

    As a failed BF, I dread number 8! Perhaps I should just shock everyone with “It’s none of your business!”, ha!! 🙂 #TwinklyTuesdays

    September 8, 2015 at 9:15 pm
  • Reply entertainingelliot

    An old lady once said to me “what a pretty little girl!” – my baby was a boy! I explained that he was in fact male (the blue outfit didn’t give her any clues) and she said “well, he’s a got a girls face!” #twinklytuesday

    September 8, 2015 at 10:59 pm
  • Reply mummascribbles

    yes these are all so true! I have definitely been asked all of them numerous times and 3 years on, some of them are still asked! It’s right about the smiling and nodding, it’s all you can do! Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

    September 9, 2015 at 8:11 pm
  • Reply Something Crunchy Mummy

    Great list and questions I received both times!! So annoying!! Thanks for sharing on #justanotherlinky xx

    September 10, 2015 at 8:34 am
  • Reply hannah mum's days

    Hahaha! I remember it well, but to be honest, it’s all I thought about so if anyone came at me with another question not in this list I’d probably have self-combusted! Thanks for linking up to #TheList xx

    September 10, 2015 at 6:56 pm
  • Reply Cooking Maniac

    By the time I had my 3rd baby I mastered the “smile, nod and walk away” response….. 🙂

    September 20, 2015 at 3:45 am
  • Reply Mummy Tries

    Arrrgggghhhhhh “You’ve got your hands full” really winds me up. Erm yes, obviously I have, I do realise I have three children you know… I just nod with a half smile on my face and hope they don’t try and strike up a conversation! Thanks for sharing this fab post with #DiffLinky 🙂

    September 22, 2015 at 7:44 pm
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  • Reply confessionsofanaggingmother

    Haha love this! And I love the answer to what is his name? haha! Wish I had used that one!!

    #bestandworst

    Gemma xx

    October 14, 2015 at 10:06 am
  • Reply leslierickerby

    I had number 1 all the time! From the same person! Every time we saw this person she’d ask the same thing!

    October 14, 2015 at 10:18 am
    • Reply MidwifeandLife

      I know I get the same things from my neighbour all the time! Smile and nod, smile and nod…

      October 14, 2015 at 10:20 am
  • Reply Picking Up Toys

    Is he good?Is the one that always drove me mental with each of mine.I always answered yes because I couldn’t be arsed to get into it but I find it sooooo annoying x #bestandworst

    October 14, 2015 at 2:08 pm
  • Reply helen gandy

    Love this post….I wrote something similar a while ago, I hate being asked questions about whether my baby is good or if they’re sleeping through the night! Thanks for linking up #bestandworst see you again!! x

    October 18, 2015 at 11:57 am
  • Reply Adrianna

    These and I hate being asked by strangers if I had him naturally or a c section.

    October 13, 2018 at 12:53 am
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