Pregnancy brings all kinds of challenges. Your body changes beyond recognition and although you marvel at its amazing abilities to nurture and bring new life into the world, it can also be an anxious time for many women.
Watch any medical drama on TV and you will see doctors saving babies, and emergencies happening to pregnant women. Listen to stories of well-meaning friends and you will be forgiven for thinking that horrendous problems in pregnancy are common, with very few women enjoying a trouble-free pregnancy and birth.
But many women do enjoy a trouble-free pregnancy, apart from a few restless nights, aches and strains and the occasions lapse of bladder control that leads to examine a wide selection of women’s incontinence products.
There are common problems in pregnancy and the secret to approaching these with confidence is knowing what the problem is and how to deal with it.
Self-esteem and pregnancy
When you suffer from problems or complications during pregnancy, your self-esteem can be dented. For example, many women feel that they have failed or that their bodies are not good enough to carry their baby or give birth.
It is easy to fall into a state of low mood which can eventually lead to you becoming depressed and detached from your pregnancy.
Looking after your emotional health during pregnancy is just as important as your physical health. Surging hormones also place your mental health under stress thus the first important lesson is this: there are very many common issues in pregnancy, and at some point, all women will need to deal with one issues or another, whether that is looking for incontinence products suitable for pregnancy or dealing with the ravages of relentless morning sickness.
Being confident in pregnancy
For many women, pregnancy represents a time in which they encounter a variety of health services. If you are normally fit and healthy, this can be alien territory. Sorting out where to go for blood tests, finding scan centres, talking to different health professionals, some of whom will give you conflicting advice, all make for an anxious time.
As a pregnant woman, you will also be bombarded with information and asked to make decisions on important subjects, such as how and where you want to have your baby, what you do want to happen and what you want to avoid.
For women pregnant with their first child, they are being asked to make decisions on an event that they have no idea how they handle or cope with; no one knows how they will cope with labour and birth until it starts to happen!
But, how can you approach these things with confidence and make sure that your wishes are heard and acted on?
- Be active with your medical team – from talking with your midwife, to discussing issues with your doctor, you want all the information so that you can make the final decision on what happens and when. Information is key.
- Research common pregnancy issues – from morning sickness to backache, to headaches and swollen feet, there are all kinds of problems and issues that crop up during pregnancy. They are caused by the weight of your growing baby as well as surging hormones. The good news is that most these problems are not harmful to you or your baby.
- Seek help if you think there is a problem – there are some symptoms, however, that are associated with issues that are dangerous to you and your baby. Pre-eclampsia, formerly known as toxaemia, is pregnancy-induced high blood pressure. This is dangerous. If you start to suffer headaches in late pregnancy and at the front of your head, you need to seek medical help immediately.
- Get support – your partner should offer invaluable support but for them, knowing ‘right from wrong’ can be difficult too. This is why talking through possible issues and problems and what you would both like to happen is important. Many women also find that a birthing partner such as a close friend or their mother are invaluable sources of support, especially in labour and birth.
- It is not a weakness – some women struggle all through pregnancy; other struggle in the first few weeks and months of being a mum. Others seem to float through the whole experience. Struggling, feeling that you are not coping are not signs of physical or emotional weakness. Hormones can be responsible for your mood being very low but this doesn’t mean you cannot or should not ask for help.
Guest post by HARTMANN Direct, which has a growing range of incontinence products suitable for use during and post pregnancy. Appropriate incontinence pads help manage accidental leaks of urine.
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