Whether you’re the mother, the father or just a friend of somebody who’s had a newborn baby, this is an exciting, emotional and tiring time for everyone involved. If you’re from the outside looking in, you can probably see how tired and stressed out the mother is following the pregnancy and now faced with the challenge of bringing up a child. If you’re a mother, then you can definitely attest to this fact. That’s why it’s important to remember the important things and take a little time out to celebrate this special newborn child.
If you’re wondering how best to celebrate the birth of this bundle of joy, whether you’re one of the parents, a family member or a friend of the family, the best place to start is by helping the mother to relax and unwind during the busy lifestyle which lies ahead of her. If you are the mother, then you shouldn’t feel any shame in letting people pamper and treat you. Your life is getting very hectic and stressful, so you have to allow yourself little treats here and there, as well as treating your own baby. If you’ve no idea how to begin celebrating this newborn life and the journey which lies ahead, then here are some suggestions.
Treat the mother to a surprise day out
You don’t need me to tell you that your partner or friend, as a new mother, is absolutely and utterly exhausted. If she doesn’t say it out loud, her eyes do; as does her new habit of sleeping whilst she stands upright. This is a clear sign that you’re long overdue some time off to celebrate and unwind. A surprise day out could be just what the doctor ordered, even if you just take the mother out for a relaxing walk and some coffee. There’s no denying that she’ll need coffee right about now. And there’s no reason your partner or friend can’t bring her newborn child with her.
If you are the mother, then you’ve been nodding furiously at everything I’ve been saying, but you don’t have to wait for somebody to surprise you. Treat yourself. You’ve earned it. Getting your partner or family member to look after the baby for even a few hours could allow you to read a book, catch up on your favourite Netflix shows or be a little wild and give yourself a spa day! You’re not a robot, and your baby will thrive off you being well-rested, relaxed and happy, so you should be striving to keep yourself emotionally and physically balanced just as much as you do for your newborn child. If you’re breastfeeding and can’t be away for long, take someone with you who can do the majority for you.
Gifts, gifts, and more gifts
If you’re watching the arrival of a beautiful newborn child with awe, you might be more than a little stumped for ways to show the mother how much you admire the 9 months of emotional highs and lows she endured, but gifts are always the answer. A stressed and tired mother will just be happy to relax with their new little one and have a relaxing glass of wine by their side, along with a few chocolates. There are great sites out there which do hampers for all occasions, if you’re stuck for a gift or an entire collection of gifts which you think will really allow the mother to relax. Of course, not all the gifts should be for the baby; I’d suggest not allowing them to have any of the chocolates and wine, at least. Food box subscription boxes or grocery vouchers are good too, then they don’t have to think about what to cook, or can pass it to their other half.
Offer to babysit
If you offer to babysit your friend’s children, especially in her early days as a mother, you are offering the most blessed gift anyone could ever give her. Watching the child or children for thirty minutes whilst she runs a few other errands might help her brain to balance out a little more on a particularly stressful day, but going the extra mile and babysitting her children for an entire evening could allow her to go out on a romantic date with her partner or even just watch a new film at the cinema that she never dreamed she’d have the time to see for the next eighteen years. Just taking the older child out for the day while she is still settling into things will be a godsend to her and something she’ll remember. If you have some time on your hands, offer to stay overnight and help with night wake ups. Company at 3am makes everyone feel better.
Clean their house
As a friend, one of the best things you could do for a new mother is clean their house. Perhaps you’re raising an eyebrow and wondering why this is the best thing you could do to help, but gifts can only go so far. At some point, all the cute little baby clothes people have bought for a mother will lose their novelty and she’ll be thinking that what she’d love more than fifty different variations of the same baby bib coated in puns and jokes is a little help with the mundane, soul-crushing chores she has to complete whilst also looking after her newborn child.
This is where you can step in and help. It might be hard for your exhausted friend to truly thank you for helping her pick up the slack, but trust me, she will be entirely grateful if you help her clean the house. Even an hour or two of sitting on the sofa and relaxing is time which she will absolutely cherish as an overwhelmed and exhausted mother. She might try to do other work around the house, but it’s your job as a good friend or a devoted partner to be strict and instruct that she remain seated and just chill out for a short while.
Remember that the most important gift you can give to a new mother is help. Buying little treats such as wine or delicious food might be the help they need early on, but, after that, simply helping your friend or partner with mundane day-to-day tasks could be the lifesaving assistance she needs to keep her mind from turning to mush. If you are a mother, remember that it’s okay to ask for help too, because having a newborn child should be something to be celebrated. It might be stressful and exhausting, but that doesn’t mean there can’t be joy and fun in amongst all that chaos.
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