When you hit your 40s, you will face a lot of physical and emotional changes, with the most outstanding being a less active sexual life.
Oftentimes, this is not because of your own doing. Instead, it’s a way of life and a way for your body to adapt to its new changes.
Wondering why you’ve been dealing with unsatisfactory sex in your 40’s? Here are 10 of the most outstanding reasons:
- Age
It’s normal for aging men to deal with sexual dysfunction. The most common problem that occurs as a result of this is premature or delayed ejaculation.
This aspect could be frustrating to both you and your partner. However, the reality is that your body does not function as well as it used to during your youth.
But that does not mean that you have to settle for unsatisfactory sex as a new normal. There are many treatment options available that will help with ejaculation.
- Erectile dysfunction
For many men, erectile dysfunction causes anxiety around sex. Thus, you may have constant conflicts with your partner because of a lack of performance, which in turn may lead to fewer sexual encounters and generally, an unsatisfactory sex life. It doesn’t have to be this way though, there are things you can do. Start with having a conversation with your GP. There’s no need to be embarrassed, there could be a medical condition that is easily treated. They can look at options together with you, which could be therapy, or diabetic treatment or they will help find the best male enhancement pills that work for you.
Failure to perform because of this kind of dysfunction will cause stress.
- Hormonal changes
In your fourth decade, you will experience a decline in hormone levels. As such, you may not be ready to have sex at a moment’s notice.
Unlike the quick arousal and desire that you experienced in your younger years, your body will need a bit of time to “find rhythm” as you get older.
The changes in hormone levels will require an increase in stimulation during sexual encounters before arousal.
With hormone changes, you can always talk to your doctor and they can consider hormone replacement therapy. However, it is important to note that this kind of therapy comes with both risks and benefits.
- Fatigue
Let’s face it, you are not as strong in your 40’s as you were in your 20’s. When you have to wake up at daybreak, go to work, impress the boss then come back home and prepare dinner then you will be very tired.
And by the time you are ready to go to bed, the only thing you want to do is sleep. Even the idea of intercourse with your partner feels like a daunting task on its own.
The best solution is to give morning sex a whirl. Of course, to keep morning breath at bay, you can always get some mouthwash. Because you typically wake up with an erection, half the work is done!
- The same routine
At 40, your libido is not what it used to be. Therefore, if you are engaging in the same routine, day in and day out, then chances are that you will not be excited about your sex life.
- You booze and lose
While one or two glasses of alcohol may put you “in the mood”, drinking too much will inhibit your sexual ability.
In fact, too much alcohol is associated with erectile dysfunction and ejaculatory incompetence., Where you will get to bed with good intentions, the sex will be lackluster and unmemorable.
- Psychological causes
Your state of mind can affect your sexual desires. If you are anxious or depressed, or have low self-esteem, and are facing financial problems, chances are that your libido will not go through the roof.
You can only thrive in the bedroom when you feel good about yourself. Otherwise, you will not be “in the mood”.
- Medication
There are certain drugs that lower your sexual drive and ultimately result in unsatisfactory sex life.
For instance, diabetes, and high blood pressure medications may lead to sexual dysfunction.
- Lack of sleep
Yes, you read that right! A good night’s rest may not be the easiest thing to come by but you need to be well-rested to maintain a good libido.
According to science, a lack of sleep elevated cortisone levels, which leads to low libido.
- Health conditions
Serious conditions like kidney disease and cancer can reduce sperm production by suppressing testosterone levels.
As the body will go survival mode, it won’t pay much attention to non-survival functions like the production of sperm.
Summary
If you are in your 40s and concerned about unsatisfactory sex, or your loss of sex drive then the most logical thing is to talk to your doctor.
Book a consultation to do a physical exam, discuss your medical, and do tests that will determine your cause of low sex drive.
Once you identify the cause, your doctor will suggest the best treatment options. For instance, if the reason for your unsatisfactory sex is depression, then your doctor might suggest a therapy session and equally prescribe some medication.
Also, if you are taking medications that contribute to low sex drive, then the doctor might suggest that you take different ones.
While some people have a difficult time discussing sex with their doctor, the fact that there are many treatment options available means that you could get the boost that you need.
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